Once a woman responds to a profile or posting that she likes, the hard work begins. The first thing he should do is carefully read the woman’s profile and pick out some unique and interesting things about her. This will allow you to get an idea about her likes, dislikes, and her sense of humor. Then you can begin sending her funny and creative messages that capture some sense of her personality. When exchanging instant messages and emails, one of the most important things that a man should do is spell check for proper grammar and punctuation. Taking time to ensure that your message is error free sends a strong and positive signal to the woman.

Another important consideration when flirting with women online is to remember that she is probably not in the market for a one-night stand. Men should be complimentary without being aggressive. For example, if she changes her profile picture, instead of complimenting a physical characteristic, tell her how much you like her dress or some piece of jewelry she may be wearing. When exchanging messages, tell her that you found one of her jokes funny and that she probably has a delightful laugh. These small touches can be engaging and will go a long way towards engendering lasting affection.

Learning to pick up her flirtations and respond accordingly is invaluable. Women love to flirt. However, if the man seems too eager or responds in an offensive manner, she may terminate communication with him. Respond to her by asking open-ended questions and let her dictate the level of intimacy. If she escalates, then it is proper for you to escalate. It is important to be completely honest during the flirtation. Not only can it be difficult to keep up with misleading statements, but also for many women, dishonesty is a deal breaker.

Online flirting is much trickier than it initially seems. However, once you earn a woman’s trust, she will be ready to increase the level of intimacy. Many people have met their significant others online. They will tell you that online dating is no shortcut. However, by being cognizant and learning how to flirt with women online, you may be well on your way to finding true happiness as well.

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Just bear in mind these three ‘P’s – punctuality, phone etiquette and politeness and you may just find you both enjoy yourselves.

The importance of being earnest

You have first date cold feet and don’t know whether to go or not. Stop acting dippy and go. Remember the effort you had to put to enlisting on the dating site and finding him or her, and don’t forget they have had to go through the same to find you.

Unless you have good reason to believe they are psycho, a bunny boiler or worse, do everything in your power to keep the first date and arrive on time.

Not going sends out the message that the other person is not that important to you. If you do get on, setting up a second date may not be easy if you’ve blown someone off already.

Switch off your life support

Ever been in a deep, meaningful conversation with a friend when their mobile goes off? Instant reaction is to grab the gizmo and see who has called.

Mobile phones are so intrusive and make people so impolite that I refuse to have one.

If you are out for a candlelit dinner and your partner answers their phone then why are they with you in the first place? OK, if they are a doctor or some other action hero lifesaver like a fireman or midwife, I can see they might get called; otherwise it’s just rude.

First dates are for getting to know each other. Discuss.

Discuss is the key word here and it is not a synonym for inquisition. Conversation taboos on first dates include ex’s, medical and bodily functions, money, personal recreational drug use and previous convictions are best reserved for when you know each other a little better.

If you are asked uncomfortable questions or the conversation heads down a road you don’t want to travel, then politely push the chat back in to the neutral zone.

If he or she is playing Ernie to your Eric, resist the temptation for the stinging one-liner and go for a compliment instead.

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The bill arrives. That carefully folded piece of paper ready to snap like a mousetrap on the first fingers to touch it.

He picks it up, after all he is a gentleman and you can see on his face that the bill has come to more than he expected.

Who picks up the tab?

What do you do? You search your mind. There must be a first date etiquette about who picks up the tab.

Well, there are three options –

* He pays
* You pay
* You split the bill

Either way, when the bill arrives or the barman asks for the cash is too late.

If you haven’t dated for a while and are just getting back in to the swing of things, then a good idea is to lay out the ground rules before either of you order anything.

After all, you may have chatted about a lot of things, but probably not mentioned money because you don’t want to seem vulgar, rude or a gold digger.

So eliminate the awkward moment that’s bound to arise and have a chat about who pays for what before you go in the pub, restaurant or wherever you have lined up to go.

That way, you can both enjoy yourselves and order what you want without feeling embarrassed and having that nagging thought at the back of your mind that you just haven’t got enough cash to cover what you spend and petrol to work as well.

To kiss or not to kiss?

Other first date etiquette covers meeting for the first time and saying goodnight.

Do you do a showbiz style air kiss on both cheeks or shake hands?

Probably the air kiss is best – but avoid the lips as you don’t want to give offence or the wrong idea the first moment you clap eyes on each other for the first time.

But there’s nothing wrong with holding hands while you’re walking

Then there’s the goodnight. Do you offer coffee and hope he turns you down?

Just show some commonsense and humour. Thank him for a lovely evening and tell him you have to be up early for whatever and go for another air kiss.

For a gentleman, the same applies.

First date etiquette also calls for both of you not to refer to a second date – it’s better to follow up with a message or a call to say thanks for a great night and shall we do it again?

That gives you both time to think about the date and each other.

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