Are you ready to try online dating?

Being single is not all it’s cracked up to be and although it’s nice to have control of the television remote and duvet occasionally, who wants to spend every evening eating meals for one while your loved up friends are planning romantic weekends to Paris or Rome? The trouble is, even if you are desperate to meet someone special, you might not be emotionally ready to let someone new into your life and heart.

The end of a relationship is often a traumatic time, especially when you shared every aspect of your life with that person and thought they were “the one”. And if the relationship ended because of infidelity, the break up was probably even harder to deal with. Dating on the rebound might seem like a fantastic way of erasing the pain of the previous relationship, but such relationships are doomed because you can’t give your heart to another when it’s still in pieces. Unfortunately, lots of people go from one relationship to another without allowing themselves time to recover. These types are the walking wounded and are usually identified by their bitterness and constant need to talk about how badly they were treated by their ex.

So before you start signing up for online dating sites in the hope of meeting someone new, take a good, hard look at your reasons for dating again and be honest about whether you are really ready for the challenge of a new relationship.

Signs you are not ready for a new relationship:

1. You can’t stop thinking about your ex and still cry yourself to sleep every night

2. You still harbour a fantasy where they call and beg for a second chance

3. You keep driving past their house to see if there are any strange cars parked outside

4. You heard they were seeing someone new and you were devastated

Getting over a relationship can take months and if you were together for a long time, it may even take years to recover from the emotional blow. Only when you can honestly say none of the above statements apply to you should you consider dating again—otherwise you are only wasting your time. Thankfully, broken hearts do heal and online dating is a great way to dip a speculative toe in the water once you are ready to find love again.

Signs you are ready to start dating:

1. You hardly ever think about your ex

2. You deleted all of their emails, text messages, and contact information because you no longer want anything to do with them

3. You heard they are seeing someone else now and your first reaction was ambivalence

4. You saw them the other day and it took a few moments before you remembered who they were